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Unpacking Anxiety

By Mums Mail Magazine16/03/20204 Mins Read

Katrine Anker-Nilssen takes a closer look at anxiety among learners and suggests simple coping strategies.

We deal with stress every day – both in our professional and personal lives. Unlike adults, who can communicate about how stress impacts their lives, children and teens may not recognise or even have the words to describe how they’re feeling. Positive stress responses from events such as changing schools and meeting new friends can actually help our youngsters learn and grow. But when exposed to repeated stressful events without the tools to manage feelings around it, stress can become emotionally and physically toxic. Parents and teachers can watch for short-term behaviours and physical symptoms that manifest when stress becomes a problem.

“Anxiety is a combination of intrusive feelings, such as worry, rumination, fear and concern accompanied by physical sensations, such as increased heart rate, dizziness, sweating and gastrointestinal complaints,” explains counselling psychologist Sia Rees.

“The amygdala, which is the emotion centre of the brain, is the primitive survival centre for humans and intrinsic to how we function when exposed to a life threat,” continues Sia. “When we are in danger the amygdala automatically activates a fight, flight or freeze response in us that kick-starts the release of stress hormones – giving the body the extra energy it needs in order to attain safety.” Adrenaline acquires the extra energy from the body by “stealing” it from less urgent bodily processes and functions such as digestion – which is often why anxious children complain of sore tummies – and frontal lobe processing.”

“Our frontal lobes are responsible for our higher order thinking such as reasoning and problem solving. “If a learner is experiencing test anxiety, for example, they will find the test more challenging as they won’t have full access to their frontal lobes needed to solve the problems in the test,” explains Sia.

A degree of stress is normal and can be a motivating force. “All learners have experienced the anxiety associated with deadlines. This encourages them to learn important life skills such as time management,” says Sia.

Common school stressors could include tests, assignments, performance, peer conflicts and challenging subjects. “Bullying can also trigger anxiety. Feeling unaccepted, disliked and like you ‘don’t fit in’ can cause learners to withdraw, which can perpetuate anxiety,” adds Sia.

As children enter high school, anxiety can also be provoked by relationship challenges. And towards the end of high school a major stressor is often where/what/when to study. “There is a culture of fear and uncertainty in our country, fear that some children won’t find work and be able to sustain themselves financially, fear as to the state of the country and fear for their safety. Children are brought up amidst these fears, and this can also trigger anxiety,” says Sia.

Anxiety in high school also stems from the marks that need to be achieved to get into tertiary education.

“To deal with anxiety in a positive manner, we have to reduce the anxiety around some of the key decisions that need to be made in the learners’ high school journey,” says psychologist Bryce Dekker. “We want to endeavour to make the small decisions count by always asking whether we are playing towards the child’s strengths or not.

In doing so, and supporting the key decision making with providing all the necessary information to make informed decisions, I think we can deal with the inevitable anxiety as proactively as possible.”

Therapy is sometimes stereotyped as being for children with “issues” or who are “crazy”. The reality is that our children are dealing with more than we ever did as children. “Today’s youth have exposure to more. They are growing up in a world that is busier, faster, smarter and more competitive. Many children don’t cope under this pressure. Giving them access to professional help can help them build grit, make necessary changes and attain a healthier balance in their lives,” says Sia.

Sia suggests schools should offer teachers training on caring for the anxious child. “Anxiety awareness campaigns to both children and parents have proved to normalise the emotions associated with anxiety, and offer coping strategies and tools. It is essential for parents and teachers to feel empowered in how they support the anxious child.”

Sia Rees: Counselling Psychologist, Hillcrest, 083 777 1017

Bryce Dekker: Psychologist – Industrial, Kloof, 082 653 7637

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